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Friday, 28 August 2009

words of wisdom

“ The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen. Elizabeth Kubler-Ross

Friday, 19 June 2009

TIPS

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10 Tips For Twenty Something Transformation

The past two weeks, I have blogged about the rite of passage for today's twenty something woman (part one and part two). Below are ten brief tips to keep in mind during this time of transformation or really any stage of life as we are all consistently presented with unique challenges and changes:

1. Be present. This is a tough one because we spend so much time in our twenties obsessing about what we will be and who we will be with. Take the time to just be. Living mentally in the future constantly only creates anxiety. Yes, set goals and consider your future while committing to action steps that are attainable and realistic. And then just accept where you are. Trying to figure it all out is fruitless and robs you of the present moment.

2. Stop comparing. Don't look at everyone else around you to determine your worth. There will always be someone more successful, richer, prettier, wittier, thinner, and so on. Who cares what your friends are doing? Focus on what you want and be grateful for what you already have. Find individuals who inspire you rather than people you attempt to measure up to. We are all on different paths, carve your own.

3. Stop caring about what other people think. Other people's opinion of you or your choices is just that - an opinion, not the truth. It's your life so get in the habit now of living it on your terms. Don't let your fear of someone else's reaction stand in the way of your dreams. Be kind, but be you. And most importantly, don't personalize things. Often people give us feedback that is a bit rough around the edges. You can still hear the feedback if it is relevant, truthful or helpful without getting hurt.

4. Tune in. We all have intuition; we just do not always know how to access it or want to listen to it. Pay attention to your gut feelings. The more you listen to your intuition, the louder and more accessible it will become. And you can't hear your inner voice when you are only listening to the voices of others.

5. Don't wait for permission, approval or validation. Many of today's twenty-somethings grew up with over-involved parents who guided their path and patted them on the back along the way. Now it's time to be your own head cheerleader.

6. Make choices. Today's twenty-something has an upscale problem: an abundance of choices which often leads to making no choice at all. If decision making is a weak skill, find ways to build your decision making muscle. Resist the urge to call your friends and parents when faced with a decision. Make little choices each day on your own, without consulting anyone else (unless of course your choice directly affects another or others).

7. Make mistakes. Perceived failure is often how we learn the most. I have learned more from my mistakes/failures than any of my accomplishments. Mistakes are often the catalyst to accomplishments. Playing it safe only keeps you comfortable and it is only when we are forced to push beyond our safety zone that we discover our potential.

8. Do things alone. Young people often like to travel in packs or yearn for a permanent "plus one." Learn to be your own companion first. Be single for an extended period of time. Go to a movie alone. Go to dinner alone. Or best yet, travel alone. Be open to discovery.

9. Build your tribe. All of us need a tribe that extends beyond our family and consists of both peers and elders. Cultivate your personal and professional relationships by networking, seeking out mentors, and calling upon the wisdom of older generations. Ask questions to the people who have "been there, done that" and listen carefully to their answers. And ask for help or support when you need it. Yes, independence is important but needs to be balanced by interdependence and connection. And by connection I mean live, face-to-face interaction. Facebook will not nourish your soul.

10. Be of service. Don't just be part of a tribe, contribute. Many people comment that self-reflection and introspection is or feels selfish. Well it is if that is all you do. As you are in this phase of life when you are learning more about who you are and what you want, make the time to give to others. Not only will it get you out of your own head, but when we step into the attitude of service, we uncover amazing and untapped qualities. It is in the act of giving that we receive the most.
And if I were to give one overarching tip it would be to enjoy the learning process that is part of any transformation. And life is a series of transformation. Change is inevitable. Careers, relationships, money, houses, good times and bad times will come and go. But we have the choice in how we respond to all of those things. As Victor Frankl says in Man's Search for Meaning, "Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space lies our freedom and power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and freedom." And when you are free, you can fly.

Tuesday, 30 September 2008

Creative & Free Form - Your percentile ranking is 90
You need an artistic or imaginative element in your work in order to find the career that fits. Your powers of visualization are strong, as is your ability to see patterns and trends long before others do. Though you can be impatient with restriction, you need to master the conventions of your art in order to find the structure that gives you true freedom of expression. Express yourself you must, and if you find a career that lets you set your own schedule, so much the better. Your productivity and your enthusiasm go hand in hand, so while others may be content to work for money alone, you won't find the right job till you're in a career that gives you joy.
Innovative & Risk-Taking - Your percentile ranking is 55
"I wonder what would happen if..." is your mantra, and you need a career with an element of risk to get you out of bed in the morning. You're willing to experiment, to learn by acting and doing. Your continual questioning of the status quo reflects your need to find a better way to do what people do now or a new way to do what others don't even realize needs doing. Yours is an entrepreneurial, "start-up" personality. You like to test boundaries, and your innate confidence means you're well placed in careers where power is at issue--business, politics, sales. Since you're willing to take the risks that pay off in tangible rewards, you need a career where money--or its equivalent--is the measure of success.
Communicative & Empathetic - Your percentile ranking is 55
You need the human connection in your work to feel genuine satisfaction in your career. So, you're a natural for any of the "helping" professions. Whether in intimate one-on-one professions like counseling or nursing or in group-oriented service careers such as non-profit administration or community leadership, you'll be best place in a job that takes advantage of your innate communication skills. A career that puts you in a position to display your social skills is a necessity. You also require work that brings not just money but meaning into your life. Care, compassion, and the genuine willingness to serve incline you to positions of social responsibility. The career that fits is a career that lets you help others who depend on you.

Your highest match was for Business & Management
Management professionals often determine the course of a company and are instrumental in the success of a company. They use expertise and education to accomplish this. They must have a deep understanding of business dynamics and may specialize in a particular area like finance or human resources. They may work behind the scenes or be highly visible in their management strategy. They often supervise other employees.

Tuesday, 03 June 2008

not too sure about how i feel right now

The greatest thing in this world is not so much where we stand, but in what direction we are moving

Friday, 25 April 2008

graduation announcement

aahh rough draft. my mom made me write one to send out to family and relatives! eeeek. i cant believe it!

As my final year of my college career is coming to an end, I want to reflect and share some of my experiences which have shaped me into the person I am today. I can't believe how fast the last four years zoomed right by me. It seems just like yesterday that I graduated from Bravo High School and prepared to move out of Los Angeles to Orange County, Irvine. Attending the University of California Irvine has been the greatest experience of my life thus far. Leaving my parent's home and living on my own has really taught me several beneficial life lessons, most importantly how to take care of myself and be a responsible and independent young adult. However, without the help of my parent's guidance and support, I wouldn't have been able to succeed as a well-educated and accomplished graduate. With a Bachelors Degree in Social Ecology and Minor in Management, I am positive I will reach my dreams of becoming a successful businesswoman. One of the most important things I've learned in college is that you can do anything you want to do, regardless of your major, as long as you have that drive and dream. Now you ask, what is Social Ecology? It is an interdisciplinary academic unit whose scholarly research and instruction contributes to knowledge in the social, behavioral, legal, environmental, and health sciences. The School is comprised of four departments: Criminology, Law and Society, Environmental Health Science and Policy, Psychology and Social Behavior, and Planning Policy and Design. I have been educated in all these subjects and are very beneficial to any type of career, and especially the type of work I want to pursue. I have also picked up a management minor which also enhances my knowledge and skill of becoming a successful manager. Eventually, I would like to go back to graduate school and obtain a Master’s Degree in Business Administration in management.

I've realized how fast my childhood, middle school, and high school has flashed before my eyes, I figured that time flies even faster as you get older. As a college freshman, I arrived to the decision that I would make these next four years of my college experience the best as possible and take on any opportunity that may result in great outcomes. Being the open-minded person I am, I have become heavily involved with the student life on and off campus. I became involved with Kababayan the Filipino Culture Club of UCI as an active member (2004-2008), Kaba Modern (2005-2008); as a dancer, choreographer, social events and website coordinator, Kababayan's PCN Senior Suite Coordinator(2008), Ameri Corp Jumpstart Program as a classroom mentor and community volunteer(2005-2006), Zeta Phi Rho "Sister" (2005-2008) Program as an active member and philanthropist, UCI Health Education Center Intern (2008), UCI Communications Department Photo Archivist(2007-2008), IntelligentDirect INC Sales Representative (2008), and Summer Student-Parent Orientation Program Staffer (2008). On top of all these activities, I was able to manage a 3.0 GPA under the School of Social Ecology, build everlasting relationships with amazing people I can call 'family,' grow as a dancer and performer, as well as a team-player, leader, and overall well-rounded person. No joke, handling all these activities on top of class, homework, and studying was NOT easy. The valuable friendships and experiences I have gained as a college student has definitely turned my life around 360 degrees, I have learned how to balance these activities and overcome these challenges with as less stress as possible. I will continue to cherish all these memories for the rest of my life and utilize everything that I have learned in the next chapters of my life as a "real world" adult. As scary as it seems to actually enter this realm, I am definitely pumped and ready for all types of experiences that come my way. I believe that everyone and anyone still has so much more room to learn and grow as a person as long as you keep an open and positive mind.

With this in mind, I would like to thank everyone who has supported me throughout all the years of my life. First and foremost, my mom and dad, I couldn't have done any of this without them because of their countless financial and loving support and guidance. All of my family, relatives, cousins, close family friends, all the people I love and care about the most; my Kaba Family, roommates, friends, mentors, professors, co-workers, and just everyone on this planet!!!! Because with out all of you none of these experiences would be as valuable as they are to my memory and heart. Lastly, none of this would be possible without my main man, the Lord our Father, God. I thank Him the most because without Him none of this would be possible.

I can't believe I did it!!!!!

Love Always,
Chiell Ann Garcia Pereira
University of California Irvine 2008 Graduate Student